Parents, teachers, and mental health workers will find the answersto these- and many other-questions in this forthright yet compassionate guide to helping your adolescent through the tumultuous teen years. From peer pressure and self-esteem to experimentation with sex, alcohol, and drugs, this invaluable resource covers a wide range of pratical issues. Here as well is information on more serious obstacles to a teen's development that may require professional intervention, such as depression, eating disorders, substance abuse, and disruptive behavorial disorders. As surely as every child will become a teen, every person that must relate to a teen will find this book a reliable, indespensable guide to the ups and downs of adolecence.

Perhaps as you held your newborn you tried to envision him at later stages - as, say, a teenager. At that time that image must have been difficult to imagine.

Yet children grow up quickly and the boy who, only a short while ago, still slept with a special blanket is now lobbying for an earring. Adolescence is the time when childhood is left behind and your young teen begins to cross the long bridge that separates childhood and the adult world.

That transition is not an easy time for either the adolescent or his parents. During this time, your son or daughter's body is being bombarded by hormones, which results in a growth surge, as well as the reproductive maturation that makes the teen physically capable of becoming a parent. For some young adolescents, this hormonal onslaught is tantamount to being on an emotional roller coaster, a difficult ride for the teen as well as for the rest of the family.

Adolescence is also a time when most children begin to pull away from their families. Once a homebody, your son may suddenly announce that he'd like to go away to camp for the summer rather than go on the annual family trek to the beach. Peers become more important than ever. Although your son used to (and still may) pretend to gag every time he saw kissing on television, he's discovering that girls aren't so bad; in fact, they're quite nice - and getting close to one may have become an intriguing prospect.

In this chapter, we will focus on the issues that your child faces as he enters adolescence. Peer pressure, burgeoning sexuality, and the quest for autonomy are some of the topics that we will discuss. First, though, let's cover the developmental milestones that children go through as they enter the adolescent years.

Milestones

Adolescence is a stage of life when, with the exception of infancy, the body grows and changes more dramatically than at any other time. During these few years, your child will attain most of his adult height and become biologically capable of having his offspring. His reasoning capabilities will rise to a new level of complexity. As he prepares to make his own place in the world, he begins the process of discovering exactly what he wants that place to be. These are also years when it may seem as though you, his parent, have been pushed from the front to the backseat of his life. You may feel superfluous now that his friends, more than family, occupy his spare time.

These are exciting days of endless discoveries. But they are also filled with the pain of uncertainty, of not always knowing if one fits in. Watching your adolescent grapple with these doubts may sometimes seem like a rerun of your own early teens; perhaps you can still sense the sting of humiliation over being the shortest or the tallest, the most or the least developed in the class. You want to protect him from insecure feelings...

David Pruitt, M.D., editor-in-chief, is past president of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, with over 6,600 members, is the leading national association of physicians dedicated to the healthy mental development of children and adolescents.